Q & A: Communicating Sexual Needs

How do I communicate with my husband concerning my sexual needs?

Communication between couples to talk about sex is one of the most difficult aspects of the marriage in the eastern cultures. That’s because we have not learned to express our feelings honestly with respect to sex, because they always told us: “It’s a taboo and a sin!”

But you should know that the failing sexual relationship will make a marriage fail by 90% chance, therefore, improving the sexual relationship is one of the basics of a successful marriage.

A woman’s body works differently from a man’s with regard to sexual pleasure. Women are more complicated to reach orgasm, and their erogenous zones differ from those of men. Therefore, the husband should learn these things from his wife.

In order for the husband to please his wife, he needs to hear from her what she likes and what makes her enjoy sex. The woman can start finding out what makes her happy while exploring her own body by touching her own erogenous zones, for example, around the clitoris, nipples, and between the thighs, and then asking her husband to do the same during their intimate relationship.

There are many educational books in the field of sex education. I would suggest that you buy a couple of these books and read them together and to try to apply the information. Commercial pornographic material is the worst source of information you can have, and may even cause several problems, so try to avoid them as an educational guide.

Also good personal hygiene, including daily showers and oral care, and making a daily ritual of kissing and hugging each other; a habit that should not be waived under any circumstances, will bring you physically and emotionally closer, which will make you more willing to be intimate.

You must speak with her husband about your wishes and concerns, using a positive and encouraging approach. Not talking about the subject will certainly lead to the failure of this important aspect of marriage. So, do not hesitate to approach your spouse using a friendly and loving attitude. If you’re too shy to talk about it, try writing him a letter.

Go for it!

Q & A: Pleasing Husband

How can I make my husband more excited during our intimate relationship?

Lovely that you would like to please your husband in bed. The first and most important thing you must be consistent with, is to always pay attention to your personal hygiene.

Before sex, the couple should take a shower and have good oral and genital hygiene. The “center of emotions” in the brain is adjacent to the center of smell, and that is why you have to be aware that your body odor must be pleasant and attractive to your husband, and vice versa, of course. Choose a body fragrance that is as light as possible; strong perfumes put men off.

Men love encouragement and praise. Tell him how wonderful he is and how much he makes you happy. Some men like role playing. So, for example, you do as if you’ve just recently met, and you get to know each other for the first time, or as if you were his nurse in a hospital, or a saleswoman in a shop, and so on.

Take up the characters that you will have chosen together. Tell him things that fit the plot. This will make him more excited. Also, try to change locations and positions of sexual intercourse. And remember that exercise, especially yoga, will make you more flexible and self-confident, so that you would be able to make the sexual experience more pleasurable to yourself and your spouse.

Men also like receiving light massage on the testicles during the penetration process. Gently hold the testicles with one hand give them your magical touch by repeatedly pressing then releasing, I repeat, very gently.

You can also press with the back of your fingers on the perineum (the area between the penis and the anus); something that causes stimulation to the internal part of the penis as well as the prostate, which will leave the husband feeling extra pleasure.

During full penetration; you can try squeezing your pelvic floor muscles several times (Kegel exercise), so that the husband would feel an extra tightness around the penis, thus adding to his joy (and yours).

Finally, the use of lubricants can facilitate the experience and make it more enjoyable for some couples. Give them a shot!

Q & A: Pleasing Wife

How do I make my wife enjoy our intercourse session and orgasm fast?

The most important thing is patience, and knowing the erogenous zones outside as well as the inside the vagina. Remember that the most sensual point in a woman’s body is the clitoris, which is located outside of the vagina, and usually can not be stimulated by contact with the penis only. It often requires the use of the mouth and fingers for ultimate pleasure.

If the wife is circumcised, you can particularly try to stimulate her body at the breast area and between the thighs, or wherever she likes on her body.

Start the foreplay for a period longer than a quarter of an hour, before attempting to enter the penis into the vagina, so that you would make sure that she is getting closer to her orgasm along with yours.

Foreplay includes kissing, hugging, and oral sex. Do this for quite some time until you feel that the wife approaching orgasm, and then you can introduce the penis into the vagina and climax together.

Do not forget that women enjoy a more intimate relationship when you are being nice to them during the day. A kiss and a hug during the day will make her enjoy your company more at night.

My admiration goes to your desire to please your wife. May all the love and happiness come your way together.